Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Crash (2004 film)
this film is about a white women who loves a black man but the problem is that her famly is aganst her love for him because they think he is a "gangster" just on how he dresses because he like dresses up in like this baggy clothing. The reason why i think this relates because they over anlise him because he dresses differntly. Meaning that he thinks he is like gang afliated and that he is not a good person. But in every aspect of being a partner he is a great guy.It just goes to show how over anlising a sictuation can be just as bad as judging some one.
article
By Wise Diva Monday, October 6, 2008, 08:00 AM
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I am no dating expert (I know, you’re shocked!), but one way I have managed to reduce a little romantic angst: put the dating microscope away. How many men have I placed under the man microscope? Sadly, too many.
The urge to analyze is driven by the need to know: How do they feel about me? Where is this going? Men and women can sometimes try to decipher each other in hopes of protecting themselves from mistakes. The problem with that? It.Does.Not.Work. Sure you can speculate a lot, but how well has that really worked for you so far?
I can remember a time when I would: recruit my girls to do full out recon on a potential mate, call post-date meetings and debrief about the date, and spend hours and hours waiting by the phone.
Can I tell you that I refer to those years the clueless era of my dating career? Talk about an exercise in futility! So to you, beloved Misadventures in Atlanta readers, a wise tip: stop trying to read men/women, pin point someone’s intentions, over analyze.
All you have to do is simply pay attention and take your time. That’s right, time reveals all - excuse me for sounding like an 80s song, but it’s true!
Personally, I don’t think any woman on the planet can say that analyzing her man, trying to read his mind, has actually resulted in a healthy, happy relationship with mutual respect. It ticks the guy off to be scrutinized so unnecessarily. They don’t like it and you (ok we!) are bad at it.
Guys, can you remember a time when you felt that the person you were dating were overyanalyzing you? What did they do or say? How could you tell? Do you think they did this because you were sending mixed messages? Or do you think this is typical female behavior? Do you have any advice for women to avoid this behavior?
Ladies, do you suffer from the man under the microscope syndrome? Is it hard for you to stop over-analyzing the men you date? Have you ever dated someone who seemed to over-analyze you? What did you do?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I am no dating expert (I know, you’re shocked!), but one way I have managed to reduce a little romantic angst: put the dating microscope away. How many men have I placed under the man microscope? Sadly, too many.
The urge to analyze is driven by the need to know: How do they feel about me? Where is this going? Men and women can sometimes try to decipher each other in hopes of protecting themselves from mistakes. The problem with that? It.Does.Not.Work. Sure you can speculate a lot, but how well has that really worked for you so far?
I can remember a time when I would: recruit my girls to do full out recon on a potential mate, call post-date meetings and debrief about the date, and spend hours and hours waiting by the phone.
Can I tell you that I refer to those years the clueless era of my dating career? Talk about an exercise in futility! So to you, beloved Misadventures in Atlanta readers, a wise tip: stop trying to read men/women, pin point someone’s intentions, over analyze.
All you have to do is simply pay attention and take your time. That’s right, time reveals all - excuse me for sounding like an 80s song, but it’s true!
Personally, I don’t think any woman on the planet can say that analyzing her man, trying to read his mind, has actually resulted in a healthy, happy relationship with mutual respect. It ticks the guy off to be scrutinized so unnecessarily. They don’t like it and you (ok we!) are bad at it.
Guys, can you remember a time when you felt that the person you were dating were overyanalyzing you? What did they do or say? How could you tell? Do you think they did this because you were sending mixed messages? Or do you think this is typical female behavior? Do you have any advice for women to avoid this behavior?
Ladies, do you suffer from the man under the microscope syndrome? Is it hard for you to stop over-analyzing the men you date? Have you ever dated someone who seemed to over-analyze you? What did you do?
Monday, October 13, 2008
poem
They don't know me
These people who say They are my friends
They don't know me
How alone I have been
Sitting here, lying here
Day after day
They quip:Get up
You don't sound sick
You don't look sick
Get upThey say:Listen to me and my life
Hear my stories
They will inspire you
Cheer you up
They don't know me
I don't want deep understanding
Just a little support
Not doubt
They don't know me
Sitting here , lying here
Day after day
Wondering
Waiting
Wanting
Soon I'll too say
And they will hear
Listen to WELL me and my life
Perhaps they are acquaintancesnot friends
soo like in this poem the mane chearter in the poem are over anliseing the suition that people are over anlising how people are thinking about he/she. and like people dont relly think he/she is actually sick.
These people who say They are my friends
They don't know me
How alone I have been
Sitting here, lying here
Day after day
They quip:Get up
You don't sound sick
You don't look sick
Get upThey say:Listen to me and my life
Hear my stories
They will inspire you
Cheer you up
They don't know me
I don't want deep understanding
Just a little support
Not doubt
They don't know me
Sitting here , lying here
Day after day
Wondering
Waiting
Wanting
Soon I'll too say
And they will hear
Listen to WELL me and my life
Perhaps they are acquaintancesnot friends
soo like in this poem the mane chearter in the poem are over anliseing the suition that people are over anlising how people are thinking about he/she. and like people dont relly think he/she is actually sick.
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Pic reason whyy
i know its Angelina Jolie.... ok
the reason why i picked this picture is that rite rite now you are instantly analsing this picture well some of you might think "WTF" she is licking blood "Ewwww". Wow she cut her lip and she likes it..... WRONG! Who knows why she is licking her or some one else blood well lets think about this for a second that why we over Analise things so rapidly well first of all its human instincts way back millions of years ago when we where some monkey looking things.There branes worked more baicly brain of our ancestors Analise their situation to see the best way to get out of that problem or how to kill some animal.
my theme for my blogg is how people over anlise sichuations
the story i chose was the "solution to saturday's puzzle" the reason why i picked this story because in some if not most cases people over anlise sictuaions for example the main charter in the story over anilised the problem he was haveing and he started acting all weard when the steurest asked him if he wanted a drink "but thats her job!"and he was all like "omg" i shouldent get eney thing because she might think im some ass hole."and i was like what a wakc job (-_-) " . So its important not to over not to always overanlise things because you can turn in to a total wack job.. =D
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